"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those
who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss
No matter what stage of the journey you're at - newly diagnosed or enjoying a remission -
it's never too soon to take care of life's housekeeping issues. Instead of looking at this
as a morbid consequence of your illness - have fun with it! A lot of these topics are
self-explanatory so here we go:
The "To-do List"
- First things first - review and/or finalize your Last Will and Testament. Make
sure that a copy of it is in an obvious place along with other vital information such as -
your bank account numbers, safety deposit box number (and key), power of attorney upon your
death to access the foregoing, investment accounts and advisor's name, land deeds, lawyer's
names, passwords etc.
- Who do you trust to carry out your medical wishes? Draw up a legal Power of Attorney
for Personal Care also known as a Medical Power of Attorney. This document
names the person responsible as well as a substitute to make medical decisions for you if
you are unable to.
- Review and update your gift list - these are smaller items outside of your Will such
as who will look after your budgie, who should get Grandma's charm bracelet and who will
take care of Aunt Vi's Christmas cactus? Write everything down, date it and have someone
- Have you thought about your funeral - do you even want one? Do you want to be buried
or cremated - have you arranged it - have you paid for it? Do you want them to play "Phantom
of the Opera-esque" music or Bob Marley? Do you want a church service or a picnic by the
lake in your memory? Did you always hate those little sandwiches they served after a funeral
or would you rather they served wine and cheese; sushi and Japanese beer or nothing but
desserts. Write it down!
- Do you want to tell someone something that you can't seem to voice? Put it in writing
and mail the letter.
- Have you kept letters or other correspondence that you'd rather that your loved ones
not find? Deal with them.
- What about that wedding dress in the back of the closet from your first trip up the
aisle - for heavens sake - get rid of it!
- Share the secret ingredient in that cake recipe that you've been holding back for
- He always dared you, so go ahead and smoke marijuana with your nephew.
- Surprise everyone and throw your own "going away party" - I've attended one and it
was a blast. Not a tear in the room - nothing but celebration and laughter. Dying is
still living - so set an example and keep going!
In the words of Robert Frost:
"The woods are lovely, dark and deep,
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep."
We strongly encourage you to talk with your health care professional
about your specific medical condition and treatments.
The information contained in this website is meant to be helpful and educational, but is not a
substitute for medical advice.