How Can You Help?

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."
~ Walter Winchell

"Let me know if there is anything I can do..."

We've all heard these well-meaning words and we've all said them many times ourselves. People are simply at a loss as to what would be appropriate and more importantly, what is needed when a loved one faces this battle. Here are some practical suggestions of what you, as a friend or family member can do:

  1. Phone - don't be worried about disturbing our rest - we'd rather talk to you. Don't be afraid to ask the tough questions and try not to judge the answers. Listen.
  2. Send a funny email - we may not be "up" everyday but you can probably get a chuckle out of us.
  3. If you can, offer to drive the patient to chemo or their checkup. It's one less day someone else has to take off work.
  4. Schedule a manicure/pedicure/massage. If your friend is on chemo, make sure it is at a time in their cycle that they are not at high risk for infection.
  5. Take the dogs for a long walk.
  6. Bring over a new movie.
  7. Do something special for the caregiver - remember that they need support too.

Here is a list of some very well-meaning, but not-so-helpful comments - the journey isn't without humour!

After studying my chart an ultrasound nurse said:

And then there is:

Volunteer Believe it or not, most of these things were said to me...



volunteer Might I Suggest:


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